I declare that self-esteem is real, and I assert that Jordan
Peterson is erroneous in identifying self-esteem as an empty, unverified
concept. Peterson denies the existence of self-esteem, instead announcing that
positive self-regard can be scientifically identified, evidentially
corroborated, and explained better through being assessing a person’s
psychological makeup through the lens of the Big Five Personality Trait Model.
Peterson is an expert in psychology, a respected authority,
and I am a blue-collar worker, amateur, an amateur who claims to know more
about self-esteem than does Peterson. I
do claim that, but I have my reasons. First, the Big Personality Trait Model
seems largely applicable, but for me that would amount to describing people’s
personalities as they naturally are, for undeveloped individuals as simple,
nonindividuated group-livers, just passively accepting as limiting how they are
born or bent the by social arrangement that they are born into.
Second, our basic personality assigned to us at birth is,
should not be, and need not be our destiny, especially as we self-realize. That
basic personality—which may be accurately described under the Big Five
Personality Trait Model--is always there as our psychic foundation, but no one
knows the upper limits of adaptability and possible personality
self-fabricating that is achievable: the lived, self-created personality of an
adult, advanced individuator might lead that individuator to invent, craft and
alter her personality in ways not captured by the Big Five Personality Trait model.
Indeed, the new traits grown and adopted by the individuator may flat conflict with,
overturn and in some cases radically modify natural trait propensities, in ways
not captured or identified under the Big Five model.
Third, I do not disagree with Jordan the psychological
expert about his favorite personality model so much as insist that the Big Five
Personality Model—or other personality models—like MBTI (Myer-Briggs), may
apply, but they are not the final story in how people can invent the
personality most conducive to their being able to fulfill their divine destiny
to maverize.
Fourth, I like the concepts of high esteem and low
self-esteem as useful, fruitful general personality descriptors, to be
retained. Under my egoist morality, these descriptors are applicable to and
helpful for allowing individuators to use these general psychological terms of
orientation towards living to know how to live and excel, and how not to live
and suffer needlessly in this world.
A.
I now want to dig into some Jordan Peterson videos on YouTube—clips
actually—that I copy and respond to. I wrote notes on what I viewed and there
is some slight editing to contact, but I tried to capture what was said, and
tried to be faithful to what was said.
Here is my first Peterson clip, Why Chasing Self-Esteem
Fails Every Time; this 4 minute and 42 second clip is from Episode 280, and was
posted 0n 10/15/24.
Here is Jordan (J after this)): “So one of the ways I used to
treat one of my socially anxious clients; so maybe they were going to a party.
One approach is to treat them with relaxation exercises and to teach them not
to focus on their own experience.
But when you tell someone not to think about something they
tend to think about it more. I said go to that party and find a couple of
people and make them comfortable.”
Dr. Keith Campbell (psychologist and K after this): “That is
interesting. A little jiu jitsu there; it makes sense.”
J: “It worked like a charm. Well, first of all or most of
these people that were socially anxious had some social skill. Not all of them.
Some of them were very badly socialized and they were anxious.”
My response: If we are rationally self-interested, we are
not self-conscious all the time, which is subjective and makes us unhappy. When
we are individuating and involved in work and our creative projects, we are
self-interested but actually, objectively forget ourselves in a beneficial mode
that eliminates narcissistic, constant, morbid, self-concentrating and overly
self-focusing. Enlightened self-interest moves our psyche generally to not be
self-absorbed or excessively introspective in some unwholesome way, whereas
group-living and nonindividuating makes people obsess about themselves in
unhealthy ways.
J: “They didn’t know how to behave in a social environment.
But some of them had social skills that they had shut off because of their
anxiety. If they, and if they focused on being hospitable, they were not
thinking about themselves; they were effective, and their anxiety went away,
and they started to flow into natural conversations.
Another thing we are pointing out on the hedonism front is
not only short-term gratification of your whims is a bad strategy because it is
associated with self-consciousness because it is associated with what you want
right now, so it is a direct link to high level negative emotion.”
My response: Self-consciousness, short-term hedonistic
gratification of the self, and being other centered are linked to high level
negative emotion, which I—not Peterson—define as low self-esteem, altruistic
group-orientation and selfless nonindividuating. High self-esteem is equivalent
to high level positive emotion, or feeling good about oneself—this Peterson
would deny.
K: “Absolutely. Part of the definition of depression is
self-confidence. It is that neuroticism. And thinking about yourself is not a
recipe for happiness. Think about anything but yourself, and thus you are
saying it is a manipulation to control social anxiety. It is also what you see
that in social psychology work on egotism.”
My response: What Keith is criticizing here and
realistically so is not individualism but is the selfish narcissism of the
joiner.
K: “On self-esteem you say here is your new roommate or you
can say go form a good relationship with your roommate. People that go out to
form and try to form a good relationship with a roommate do get self-esteem.
The people that try to get self-esteem don’t get
self-esteem, so the self-esteem is sort of a side effect or epiphenomenon of
close relationships with people. But if you go direct . . .”
My response: I do not deny what Keith is describing above,
but he wrongly attributes it to the egoist, not the selfish, excessively,
unhealthily self-conscious altruist, joiner and nonindividuator. I do agree
that both sought-after self-esteem and happiness are gained as epiphenomenal
benefits of self-realizing, loving, working, creating, thinking, and staying
busy. These effects are not goals to be directly sought and acquired.
J: “That is so important.”
K: “Yeah, yeah.”
J: “It is also important to say I am so appalled for 20
years about the self-esteem movement. You are teaching something like fragile
narcissism.”
My response: It is almost like Keith and Jordan are
attacking a straw man which they have created. A narcissist is someone that is
in love with himself in some sick way: this pure groupist and joiner may
pretend to be socially superior but his obsession with and incessant competing
for higher social rank (a collectivist ambition) is undertaken so he can lord
it over those beneath him in the social pecking order; this phony
self-esteeming gives the lie to the criticism that he loves himself; he is so
subconsciously feeling inferior about himself that he can only assign worth to
himself by comparing himself to his neighbors and victimizing them. If he feels
he is of inflated importance (he may be a big fish in the little social pond
and hierarchy in which he swims) it is a cover for his real self-appraisal—he
needs constant, permanent social affirmation to temporarily feel a little good
about himself.
He may feel that he deserves his exalted status, but it is
unearned exaltation, and his selfishness is the self-centeredness of those that
run in packs.
I briefly read online that there are competing psychologists
that disagree with Jordan and Keith that confident self-appraisal can lead to
healthy self-regulation while operating in the world.
I am a maintenance engineer at a private college in the Twin
Cities and I saw a bulletin board for the freshman in their dormitory which was
covered with the shallow, superficial kinds of happy, empty self-talk that
failed self-esteemed programs feed to entitled, narcissistic little groupists
and nonindivudators so common today.
Let me provide a list of these posted bromides for the
reader on my colleges “Words of Affirmation” board: I make life feel worth
living; I give myself the purpose of continuing my journey of life; I am
strong: After my tears drop, I will still try everyday, After a breakup I will
grow within myself, After getting a D on a paper I will do better next time,
After failing an exam I will do better, I will treat myself with kindness; I
wake up motivated, I wake up to conquer the day, I wake up ready to learn, I
wake up ready to have fun, I wake up ready to meet new people; You go this,
keep thriving, keep pushing, keep breathing, keep the mindset that brought you
here, keep going; I cried, I smiled, I ate, I breathed, I did so well today;
From me: I am proud of you; Appreciation, I appreciate being here, I appreciate
I’m able to make decisions, I appreciate I have access to food, water, clothes,
I appreciate my friends and family; I have support, if I ever need support I
will put myself first and receive it, I have resources, I am not alone; I am
beautiful, everything about me is beautiful from my head to my toes; I am
loved, I have support, I have people that care about my well-being and mental
health; I am happy to meet each and every one of you; Inspire, I inspire my
siblings; I love myself, I love my attitude; I am powerful, my presence will be
powerful, I have the ability to leave a positive impact on others, I walk with
confidence, I treat myself the way I want others to treat me.”
My initial impression is that these words of inspiration
would inspire a self-realizing, individuating individual as that individual
lives and enjoy high, merited self-esteem, thinking and feeling well about
himself; but, most of these freshman, nice enough youngsters, spoiled,
affluent, jaded, bragging youngsters of low self-esteem (suffering from
unprecedented levels of depression and suicidal thoughts) are nonindiviudators
and groupists being broken and brainwashed by this sick DEI Marxist university,
inverting these young, unquestioning groupists into social justice activists in
the ranks of the advancing postmodernist, Marxist mass movement sweeping across
America. None are as unhappy, narcissistic, selfless but selfish and corrupt as
self-hating, other-hating true believers of very low self-esteem that have all
the answers.
Real self-esteem is what one would teach to a young
individuator to suggest to her that she and her life are valuable, and she
deserves a fulfilling life of discovery and developing her talents and mind.
This requires self-esteem to impel her to will to undertake the individuation
journey, and self-esteem is what she gains from and only from maverizing. She
must love, work, create, bring order to the world, and achieve remarkably to merit
feeling high self-esteem about herself; she cannot just say it to herself and
about herself if she has not earned it; that is a pathetic, empty lie.
That is the unaccomplished, failed young person that Jordan
is criticizing, but his mistake is to label them as selfish, prideful,
self-esteeming individualists, when they are actually selfless—which is
selfishness, paradoxically—prideful, low self-esteeming, bragging joiners and
collectivists.
A person of high self-esteem is a productive, competent,
accomplished person; thus, she is happy, emotionally healthy person. She is
secure enough in her self-esteeming and her modest self-loving that she neither
brag about herself, nor deprecate or attack herself without merit or kind
intent.
J: “That is a very bad thing to teach kids. That is really
bad. Your point is exactly right: what we call self-esteem is really regulation
of negative emotions to a large degree. Positive personal emotion (a state of
personal happiness and mental wellness Ed adds) is actually obtained by
establishing long term reciprocal relationships. Because those are stable and
reliable that decreases negative emotion.”
My response: Jordan and proponents of the Big Five
Personality Trait model identify negative emotions with being neurotic,
personally unhappy, and mentally unhealthy. Jordan is pushing that healthy
regulation of one’s emotions is gained and sustained by long term reciprocal
relationships, and I agree, but even more so from esteeming the self as a
loving individuator. Low self-esteem/neuroticism/ negative emotional stances
are associated mostly with altruistic nonindividuating and group-living.
J: “Most self-esteem measurements are mostly neuroticism.
Like there is extroversion in there but it is mostly neuroticism reversed. So,
it is so interesting. Psychologists could do this to teach people—we have done
a bad job of this—the best pathway to emotional self-regulation is throughs
service to other people. That is a great deal for everybody.”
My response: Jordan wants the masses to not pursue
self-interest, self-esteem and maverization because they lack the brains, the
talents, and the right to do so (only the elite few that are smarter and better
are allowed to be individualistic, pursue their own self-interests or
self-realize).
The masses must settle for altruistic, selfless service to
others. What he defines as neuroticism as actually low self-esteem in action in
the personalities and minds of practicing nonindividuating, selfless joiners.
Low self-esteem is bad and leads to disregulation of one’s emotions.
While healthy reciprocal relationships are desirable, we
gain self-esteem and emotional self-regulation first and primarily by what we
do, not by our relationships to others, an important factor but of secondary
significance and priority for the happy, moral individual.
Negative emotion is self-loathing exhibited as one serves
others excessively and as one’s only reason for existing. Self-love is
manifested in the individual when he lives for himself primarily as a maverizer
and encourages others to so live too. Liberating them from him and him from
them is kindness, a real service to others.
K: “A long time ago Jean Twenge and I wrote a book on this,
The Narcissism Epidemic.”
My response: The Narcissism Epidemic was written by Jean M.
Twenge, PH.D. (she the author of Generation Me) and W. Keith Campbell.
K: “We were looking at the cultural changes emerging out of
the self-esteem movement and other things and that is exactly what we found.
People need to give kids self-esteem so what we have to do is make them feel
special. That is a disaster. The way you make people, you have positive, loving
relationships and age-appropriate challenges so they can get some competence
and a sense of connection.
Relationships are a long-term, durable source of well-being.
I mean I can be close to my siblings for 50 to 70 years if we make it. Getting
self-esteem from winning or being cool or attractive is a short-term game. The
thrill of victory and the agony of defeat, and it is very hard to be relevant
(popular Ed adds) for a long time in terms of the strategy that if you want to
like yourself, focus on relationships. That is going to work.”
My response: Both Keith and Jordan peddle group-oriented
living and self-sacrifice in service of others as the tickets to emotional well-being,
but Ayn Rand and I would disagree. I would partially disagree, and Rand likely
would wholly denounce their proposals.
The moderate in me would grant to Keith and Jordan that
healthy, reciprocal, long-term relationships and service to others are
ethically desirable and make people sane and happy, but it is the minor moral
emphasis. The major moral emphasis must be self-realizing in pursuit of one’s
enlightened self-interest.
Rand more boldly and baldly would pronounce that selfish
interest pursued by the individual as a rational egoist is one only moral duty.
I would mostly agree with her.
My view of self-interest varies from hers in two ways: I
identify self-interest more directly as self-interest as self-realization, the
lifelong struggle to produce personal excellence morally, materially,
relationally, intellectually, and artistically. Still, her Howard Roark
character is a great soul.
Second, I identify egoist morality as serving God, by
existing and working as a living angel. Rand the atheist would scorn this line
of thinking.
B.
I follow the good deities who are individuators more than
nonindividuators, and they serve themselves more than they serve others, though
as Christ-like good shepherds, they altruistically care for the sheep who they do
attend to, and are responsible for. They want their human children to engage in
enlightened self-interest more than other-interest as group-livers sacrificing
the self in service to others.
Self-esteem or high, merited intellectual and emotional
self-regard, is governed by the law of moderation, the godly love of truth
about the self. Moderately, one does not rate oneself artificially high or
unfairly low, but about where one should rate oneself. One seeks to know the
truth about oneself with a fearless, illusionless steadfastness: then if one
regards oneself with high self-esteem, it would reflect what one is: one would
be a great soul in the making both spiritually and morally loving of the self,
of the good divinities and other humans, and one will have produced plays,
poems, inventions, and new theories which demonstrate in the world that one’s
talents are brilliantly developed, expressed and instantiated in the world.
One only has self-esteem if one does not esteem oneself too
highly or too lowly, whether one has earned the right to think well of oneself
or not. If one is a good person, loving and an individuator, then one can take
pride in oneself, more than one should be humble, but modesty in thought, word
and deed are always advisable and prudent. And so acting about the self while
self-imaging is the only way to stay sane, ethical and happy permanently.
One should love the self-more than one hates the self, and
one should be self-interested in the enlightened way more than one is
other-centered in the enlightened manner.
One should work more than one plays; one should create more
than one destroys; one should seek duty over pleasure and sacrifice oneself
(sacrifice as practiced self-discipline and delayed gratification) more than to
indulge the self, but sacrifice for one’s own sake and gain, more than
sacrificing for others in service to others.
C
Peterson does not
come right out and say so, but he will allow the brightest to be somewhat
motivated by self-interest, original thinking and being creative because they
are the rarely talented elite. Even they must be modest lest their intellectual
arrogance lead them to assume the evil stance of Luficerian pride.
It seems that humility and service to others (altruist
morality) is the ethics for the non-smart, non-creative, plebian masses for
moral excellence defined as self-sacrificing the self in service to others is
the only excellence available to the untalented, not-bright masses.
Jordan might have concluded that the intelligent elite are
not only smarter they are morally superior to the masses dull and more evil-inclined,
so they require firm control from above, the masses must be steeped in altruist
ethics to keep them in line and orderly.
The elite rule masses all over the world and always have. An
elite is a tight clique, so they are or end up being groupist. These
selfless/selfish joiners on top will stay altruistic and stay with their evil
ways which they are.
D
Jordan Peterson rails against bright people being guilty of
Luciferian pride for they seek to put themselves above everyone and everything
as rulers, and they want all knowledge, all power and to live forever as gods
that usurp and have supplanted the good deities Their Luciferian pride is the
cardinal sin.
We can be proud maverizers but serve God and not seek to
overthrow God—like an impossibility for which we would be severely punished for
by the angered good deities meting out divine justice to human sinners.
E
This clip on Peterson is from 2020, and it is 4:10 minutes
long and I took notes on it and will comment on it. This is from youtube.com
and is entitled, It’s Better Than Self-Esteem.
J: “One of the things psychologists have pushed in the last
20 years, especially social psychologists, have pushed this idea of
self-esteem. You should feel good about yourself.”
My response: You should feel good about yourself only if you
are realistic in your self-assessment. You can only esteem yourself to the
degree that you are worthy of esteem offered you from the self or others. If you are lazy, vicious, godless,
self-hating, evil, nonindividuating and undeveloped, there is not much there to
be proud of.
I link positive self-esteem to conscience and motivation. If
we train a young person to love himself, and with this right to so self-regard
goes the responsibility to individuate and make himself moral, holy, very smart,
and very creative.
My general counterargument to Peterson is that I wish to
retain self-esteem as a technical word that is approximately synonymous with
one’s general attitude towards oneself. This image that one has of oneself is a
self-assessment and is more metaphysically than scientifically supported studies
of personal type systems such as the Big Five Personality Trait model which can
be made compatible with my traditional, less evidentially and researched based,
concept of self-esteem. Self-esteem as a technical word for self-assessing is
what I seek to retain and employ when referring to people self-imaging, for I
wish to connect my ideas about self-esteem as a coherent extension of thinkers
in the past 150 years that referred to self-esteeming or positive
self-regarding.
The way that this two-word technical term, self-esteem, was utilized
100 years ago seem to apply and be serviceable and I do not want to lose that
line of thinking, but to extend it into the modern period though my ambition
conflicts with Peterson’s radical dismissal of the concept of self-esteem as an
any longer relevant way to define and describe individual self-assessment.
I suggest that we continue to use self-esteem as a
meta-psychological term and concept for describing individual self-assessment
and underneath that overarching concept can be subsumed current, more popular,
more evidence-based, more scientifically precise, and technical terms and
concepts which clinical psychologists like Peterson use today to characterize
individual self-assessing.
My mentor, Eric Hoffer, seemed to employ the concept of
self-esteem to describe human self-assessment, a word defining how people form
a picture of themselves, whether or not that imaged self is admirable or
repulsive, truly or falsely depicted about the self by the self. I fear we will
lose valuable insight from past thinkers in discarding this special, relevant
phrase.
I would divide self-esteem or self-imaging into two general
categories. The first I refer to as veridical self-esteem: high self-esteem
would correspond to one’s self-image if one is of sterling character, a morally
and spiritually loving person, a wage-earner, artistic maverizer and original
thinker. One is worthy.
Veridical low self-esteem would apply whenever one came to
the realization that one is lazy, selfish, mean, unjust, mediocre, and godless.
One is unworthy.
The second category of self-esteeming is mendacious
self-esteeming. Under this category, the self-imager is a liar, and his
nonindividuating, his lying, his cruelty, his selflessness would be
self-mischaracterized by him that he is entitled to rule, to take, to hurt, to
arrogantly declare he is the best (he plainly is the worst).
More prevalent and more dangerous by far is mendacious, low
self-esteeming self-assigned by the majority of people that are more sinner
than virtuous, but not terrible, but they accept a communal, tribal or societal
system of injustice, tyranny and groupist inter-cruelty as the norm to be not
opposed, if not actively supported.
This majority of average sinners and average mediocrities
assume they deserve to suffer needlessly and that they can never make it any
better. Their capitulation and fatalism allow evil to grow in the world, and
the damage they permit make malevolence stronger and more pervasive.
J: “And think why would you tell someone that is 20 that?
It’s like you should feel good about who you are. No, you shouldn’t.”
My response: Jordan is correct in dismissing easy, glib,
shallow application of self-esteem self-talk to upgrade a person. I would
qualify his objecting that you should tell a 20-year old to feel good about
herself, by suggesting that each child or young adult has the right to be told
and reminded that she has the right to feel good about herself as her jumping
off point, but she immediately
thereafter with speed, focus and resolve, devote her life to self-realizing,
the moral ideal: she is to morally, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally
and physically ensure through effort and
behavior that her ennobled personhood has grown to match these kind, extolling
words that she has assigned to herself.
Jordan is correct in pointing out that most young people,
born evil, born with low self-esteem, weak wills, reared as nonindividuators in
a group setting with an emphasis on conforming to get along with other
non-achievers, are a mess that should not feel good about themselves. They are
without accomplishment or competence.
Then, Jordan goes off the rails. He wants them to clean up
their room and their messy lives but as untalented, average-IQued member of the
masses, their only way to feel good about themselves is as altruistic, selfless
givers, living a life in service to others, enmeshed in long-term reciprocal
relationships—no individual or solitary living allowed.
Instead, I suggest they should achieve personal moral
excellence but intellectual and artistic excellence too, and they are all gifted
individuals, no matter how average they are. Creativity and originality for even
people of average IQs can produce wonderful art and originality, though the
creator has not the words concepts to get to personal perfection, or to justify
her excellent products.
Her brilliance can be unconsciously unfolded by her in
action and perfecting output though she cannot linguistically express her
patten of individuating in concrete, well-defined concepts.
Even average people can unleash their “super-IQ” while
individuating and no one knows the upper limits of that wondrous internal
unpacking of what each person has to offer, and such a person can then esteem
herself highly without arrogance, without a loss of modesty, without a loss of
gratitude in the good deities for giving her life, talent, and opportunity,
without ever getting puffed up and taking herself too seriously.
J: “Why should you feel good about who you are? You should
feel good about who you should be. That’s way better because you get 60 years
to turn into who you could be. I’m not saying that people shouldn’t have
confidence.”
My response: Jordan is so anti-merited high self-esteem that
his lack of belief in the potential of every young person does undermine their
confidence in themselves, because the elders around them and their peers tell
them they are nothing special, nothing to celebrate, with no future outside
self-sacrifice to the collective need.
J: “ . . . but often people, you take young people, you
say from 16 to 22 and they are not feeling that good about who they are because
their lives are chaotic and in disorder. They do not know where they are going,
and which way is up.”
Joe Rogan (R after this): “It is bad parenting, bullying
(Okay, yes, Jordan agrees.). There could be a lot of abuse going on and I think
that is one of the reasons the ideas people have is the idea to be happy with
who you are and to feel good about who you are.”
My response: Rogan needs to realize that good parenting
would teach the children that they abuse none, and tolerate abuse from none,
and that they think for themselves and maverize as an individual and
individuators, for only they have they a chance to be happy with who they are
or are becoming, and then start to feel good about themselves.
J: “Right, but the thing is it has to be stated with
precision. You should treat yourself as if you are valuable. Especially in
potential. But you should concentrate on who you should become especially if
you are young.”
My response: Jordan is correct but we need to remind the
young that their potential to be pursued and developed by them of their own
free will is potential to make money, have a job , get married and start a
family, to worship God, but, at the higher end of personal development, it is
also fulfilling one’s divine duty to become actual existing excellent in love,
morality, as a mechanic, a philosopher, a mathematician, a painter, realizing
that each person can do most of these things if she believes in herself and
gets them underway, and that is when she can esteem herself highly and rightly
so.
I want to cling to this traditional concept of high
self-esteem as of worth to each person because the concept of self-esteem is
historically and culturally valuable, and indicative of how people should be
feeling about themselves. It hints however implicitly of support for
egoist-individualist morality and the life of individuating. The concept of
self-esteem must be retained.
As an aside I wonder why such bright psychologists like W.
Keith Campbell and Jordan Peterson are so down on self-esteeming, downplaying
it as leading to narcissism, selfishness, unhappiness and being tormented by an
array of negative emotions.
I may not be far off in assuming that they could add that
self-esteeming grows selfishness, narcissism and evil in the soul and inflated
self-consciousness of each entitled, spoiled young person so that they are evil
and even demonic in the end. Only those that are humble, altruistic, and
spending lives in service of others, not even thinking about the self, are
happy and good and godly.
Why are these psychologists and their ilk so down on lovely
blessed, egoism and self-esteeming?
First, as secular scientists and intellectuals, and as
Christians literally or culturally, both men favor self-regulation and humility
over pride and self-esteeming of the self, and they urge altruism-collectivism
as the way to behave so that one can become a good person. That is the ethical
tradition they grew up in and wish to perpetuate.
Second, groupist intellectuals, and Campbell and Peterson
may be of that ilk—are, like the rest of us mere humans-- born basically evil
(which in my books means to be born selfless, self-hating, of low self-esteem,
favoring group-living, group-identifying and supporting group
ethics—altruism-collectivism), so, on some level that they are unaware of, they wish to preserve the human
cultural pattern of group-living over individual-living which is now coming to
the fore. If they can depreciate the value of self-esteeming and egoist
morality, they may be able to protect the collectivist, groupist status quo.
They wish to fight off instinctively, the arrival and spread
of egoist-individualist ethics, and they may not even be aware of this deep
need to maintain the group-living status quo with the culture and morality that
undergirds all of that. The desire to be groupist and justify groupism is a
subtle, powerful influence on people, more than even experts realize.
Third, most professors are aristocrats who favor egoism and
individualism for the ruling few that are the elite rulers, and
altruism-collectivism is plenty sufficient for the ruled, undeserving masses.
Rulers want their follower submissive, uncritical, quiet, and compliant, meek,
silent, with their heads down all the time.
J: “So let’s say you are miserable and nihilistic and
chaotic and depressed; and enough of all that, and you have your reasons:
terrible parenting, abuse, and all that. It’s like you should feel good about
yourself? No, no, it’s not the right message. It’s more like you should
understand how much potential there is within you to set that straight.”
My response: Jordan is correct here as far as he goes that
moral excellence sought despite one’s suffering and setbacks is courageous and
therapeutic. The aristocrat in him seems to confine the potential to the masses
as perhaps achieving personal moral excellence, but individualism and egoism
feeding high self-esteem also demands form each individual intellectual and
creative excellence too. Each average person can and should maverize.
J: “And then you should do everything you can to manifest
that in the world and it will set it straight. And that’s better than
self-esteem (Ed disagrees: that is self-esteem in action.). It’s like you are
in a crooked, horrible position. So fine, there is a lot of suffering and pain
associated with that. You cannot just feel good about that because it is not
good.”
My response: We take where we were beginning, as an
existential mess, and we slowly bootstrap our way up through self-discipline
via self-realizing, so we can come to the point that we can esteem ourselves,
and there and then, the self-praise is real and merited if ever to be modestly
expressed and modestly endured.
We must never lie to ourselves: we must recognize,
understand, accept what a natural mess we are, and then resolve to change
ourselves for the better. If one is taught an initial self of self-love, that
one’s life and soul are unique, precious, and valuable, then one might have the
premise upon which to grow and develop, shaping a beautiful life.
J: “But you can do something about it. You can genuinely do
something about it, and I think all the evidence suggests that this is the
case. So, I’m telling young people no matter how bad you situation is, I’m not
going to pretend it is okay. It is not okay. It’s tragic, tainted with
malevolence.”
My response: Jordan is a bit of a gloomy Gus, but he tells
truth here when he reveals that life is hard, and suffering is universal, and
that malevolence, or needless suffering are felt by and committed by all. Evil
exists as a natural and supernatural force or intelligence, and it inflicts
itself upon people every day.
J: “And some people really get hurt by malevolent people,
you know, terribly hurt. Sometimes they never recover. But it is really awful.
But there is more to you than you think. And if you stand up and face it with a
positive, noble vision, with discipline and intent, you can far, further to
overcoming it than you can imagine. And that is the principle upon which you
should predicate your behavior. And one of the things which I think is really
nice about being a clinical psychologist this isn’t just guesswork. Like one of
the things we know—we know two things in clinical psychology.
One is truthful conversations redeem people. Because if you
come to a clinical psychologist who is worth his salt, you have a truthful
conversation. The conversation is: Here is what is wrong with my life, and here
is what caused it. And it takes maybe a year to have that conversation and
maybe both of the participants are doing everything they can to lay it out
properly. Here is how it might be fixed. Here is what a beneficial future might
look like.
And so it is a completely honest conversation if it is
working well, and all that is happening in the conversation is that the two
people involved in the conversation are trying to make things better. That’s
the goal. Let’s see if we can have conversation that makes things better. Okay,
so we know that works. And it does make things better.
And another thing we know is that let’s say there are a
bunch of things you are afraid of that stand in your way, so you have some
vision about who you want to be. So maybe you have to, you know, you want to
learn to be successful in your career. So, you have to learn to talk in front
of a group. Well, you are afraid of that, no wonder, you don’t want to be
humiliated. So, what do we do about that. Well, maybe we first get you to speak
in front of one person and then in front of three people for five minutes, and
then for ten minutes.
Graduated exposure to what you are afraid of, voluntary
graduated exposure to what you are afraid of is curative. So, if you tell
people to confront the world forthrightly, if you speak the truth, and you
expose yourself courageously to those things you are afraid of that your life
will improve and so will the lives of people around you.”
My response: All this sage advice and therapy works but it
is consistent with egoism, a search for increased, merited self-esteem, and it
is self-interested growth, but it has much less to do with or is conducive with
altruism, seeking low self-esteem and humility, and the life lived for life as
a nonindividuator.
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Here is another Peterson clip from Youtube, a 14.55 minute
piece entitled Lies and BS: Jordan Peterson Destroys the Self-Esteem and
Emotional Intelligence Concepts. I copied it out and then made comments on it.
J: “Here’s something I think doesn’t exist. To predict
things in the real world, here are some things not to use. I don’t think
self-esteem exists. There is really only one scale. There is a Roman Paparotti
self-esteem scale that is pretty good. But the standard one is the Rosenburg. I
can’t remember items it has, 15, I think, not enough items to really be
reliable.
There were over 25,000 papers published on self-esteem.
Figure ten grand a paper, so you can do the math: 25,000 by 10,000. That is the
total amount of research funding that has gone into self-esteem. What is
self-esteem? It is a word. Actually it is 2 words. It’s something you think you
might have or not have but that is a figure of speech. That is not an empirical
phenomenon, so most of extraversion is just neuroticism.
If you have a lot of negative emotion you do not feel that
good about yourself. Well, isn’t that a surprise? You have a lot of negative
emotion. You know if you want to fix it up a little bit, you can also subtract
positive emotion from that, so if you have a lot of negative emotion, and not a
lot of positive emotion. So that is neuroticism minus extraversion. Then your
self-esteem is even lower. Now maybe over time conscientiousness starts to make
a lot of difference because if you are conscientious and work hard you can see
that it is starting to pay off and Tafardi (Ed: this word is unclear for
spelling.) has done some wonderful work that seems to indicate that.
But, if you know, the first thing that happened is everybody
went on a self-esteem bender, even though the measures were pretty appalling
and even though you could, you know, model it with the Big Five.
And there are things that happened as a consequence of that
was that the whole California school system started to teach students
self-esteem. It’s like, what makes you think you should have high self-esteem?
Maybe you’re a miserable little worm. God only knows, right? It not the case
that you should have a good opinion of yourself in every bloody situation.
You know, what if you are a bully who pounds people out on
the school yard? Bullies, by the way, have higher self-esteem than normal. So
there because it is not like they are feeling bad about themselves.”
My response: First off, kids in the public school are little
robots, conformist altruists so to surface teach student-joiners shallow, superficial
self-esteeming strategies is a doomed plan which necessarily must fail, giving—unfairly--self-esteem
therapy a bad name, because the root cause (selflessness and low self-esteem)
have not be systemically rooted out voluntarily by each individual child agent
to make way for his personal succeeding as a young maverizer maverizing his way
to goodness, excellence and higher self-esteem.
Such misguided, shallow self-esteem programs are a straw
man, easy for scientific, credentialed altruists like Jordan to put down
because these poorly conceived therapies are doomed to fail, being the ill-conceived
and poorly implemented therapies as they were and are. Such inferior
self-esteem models give all egoist morality, with its potential for boosting
self-esteem, a bad name. My sneaking suspicion is the altruistic, “experts” in
psychology are secretly pleased to be able to denounce as unworkable and
unscientific, existing shallow self-esteem therapies. The experts pontificate,
offering that the evidence shows that self-esteem therapies make youngsters,
already born evil, more selfish, neurotic, depressed, immoral, narcissistic,
depressed, and psychotic than they need to be otherwise, if they were taught
altruist morality and personal humility and service to others as the
psychological standard for being happy and good.
A bully is a group creature that is a small time criminal in
the making. He is not high in veridical self-esteem, but he is replete with
boastful, mendacious high self-esteem--where he overrates his moral worth and
underrates his sinning-- because one that loves the self, esteems the self, and
this can only be true, real, and maintained, if he treats himself firstly, and
then all others, secondarily with kindness, courtesy, and respect. The bully is
atrocious, violent, dominant, arrogant,
militant and brazen is his overt selfish selflessness but he is no individualist,
and he has not self-esteem, though his sick cockiness is the sadistic side of
feeling worthless, temporarily relieved by
pounding on someone smaller and weaker. Ever a social climber, he may
not be popular, but he has gained much group-power of an addicting kind as he
is the king of the schoolyard hill.
J: “When they pound you they’re feeling bad about you. And
the best work indicates the low self-esteem equals the bully hypothesis. Lots
of people believe that. But if you read Dan Oliveus, who’s the world’s leading
authority on bullying and who has actually done something about it.
He says bullies have an inappropriately high self-esteem
which is why they think they are in a perfectly good position to pound you out
if you happen to be on the playground. So, it’s not like they are suffering
from a neurotic weakness of self-image. It’s quite the contrary. So anyways, in
the California school system, they tried to teach kids self-esteem and there is
no evidence that you can do that first, because neuroticism is quite hard to
shift.”
My response: We likely can only shift predominant
neuroticism in the individual to veridical high and low self-esteeming if we
teach children to maverize.
J: “And second, there are people like Jean Twenge, who used
to be a student of Roy Baumeister, who claims that all that self-esteem
training has just made younger people, like you guys, more narcissistic.”
My response: Dennis Prager convinced me that to be moral,
good, truthful, and happy, you must fight your nature, taking on your
spiritual, godly nature as a good person. If you will to improve, you will get
better. Veridical self-esteem or self-loving will motivate a sane person to grow
as a moral person, and veridical low self-esteem is your honest embarrassment,
your powerful awareness of your undeveloped state, your sordid state
existentially, a state of deep, enervating sinfulness. The good news is that
your self-esteem can grow, and veridically so, as you improve at maverizing.
J: “Yeah, because the self-esteem becomes disconnected from
the actual accomplishment because you might hope you might feel good. How good
should you feel about yourself? Well, you might say, well, you should grant
yourself the right to exist like anyone else. That’s sort of a basic human
right. As a human being you are valuable. And then maybe you should think you
are about as valuable as people roughly think you are. That seems about right,
Right?”
My response: No, the individual sets his value, not the
group. Each is valuable and very talented and bright, laden with untapped
potential. You have a right to exist but God gives you a duty to develop those
talents to help yourself and the world be better.
J: “So the right amount of self-esteem would be your
perception of your value within the context of the group. (No, Ed adds.) It’s
got to be something like that. So, there should be a concordance because like
maybe you need to improve. That could well be. And are you going to improve if
you’re feeling really good about yourself.”
My response: When self-esteem is veridical and merited, you
feel good about yourself because you know your self-realizing is wise
action-planning put into action by you, by perfecting self-love and its
emulating the good deities, Individuators all. Your self-esteem will motivate
you to strive harder as long as you live to keep growing and getting better,
and that is not group-inspired, but is group-repressed.
The good conscience is strongest in the living angel guided
very veridical self-esteeming. He could not live with himself if his actions
did not fairly closely match or exceed his ethical code.
J: “Well, the answer to that is that we don’t know. How much
misery about yourself do you have to have before you are motivated to improve
yourself?”
My response: If one knows one is miserable and is willing to
finally do something about it to make things and oneself better, that veridical
state of personal consciousness is an epistemic victory that is emblematic of
rising self-esteem. One must experience via veridical low self-esteeming that
one is a mess before one wills to improve, so that one self-esteem can
justifiably and commensurately rise.
Nonindividuating children, or lousy little worms to quote
Jordan, likely feel pretty good about themselves though they are abject messes
and failures as human beings. Their mendacious self-esteem is high, and their
veridical low self-esteem is so repressed that it is nonexistent. If these
nonindividuating, groupist, selfless children were honest, they would not like
themselves, but because they live in a world of denial and fantasy, they
mendaciously think well of themselves, and their being popular in their phony,
affirming peer group reinforces their ability to deceive themselves. They are
fiercely proud of themselves, but this is pure Luciferian pride at its
strongest, and it grows out of altruist morality and group-identifying.
J: “ None? Well, that doesn’t seem right. We also do not
know if it is shame or guilt or anxiety or pain or these negative emotions that
motivate you. Now it is clear that if you have enough negative emotion, than
can paralyze you, but that’s like depression and psychiatrically high levels of
anxiety. That’s not like low self-esteem.”
My response: It seems like quibbling to argue negative
emotions about yourself that motivate you to improve you cannot be referred to
as veridical low self-esteem. I would argue that negative emotions are
wholesome when they are veridical (you now know you are a mess and must do
something about it). Then this veridical low self-esteem is wholesome because
you are ready to get better and make it happen and because you are now living
in a state of truth about your own situation, and that is a vital prerequisite
to being motivated to work to reform the self. You will esteem yourself lowly
until you self-realize enough to think rather better of yourself.
Peterson seemed ten years ago to be for developing your
individual talents, but he never embraced egoist morality, and he was all along
the traditional, typical altruist, a point at which cultural Christians, actual
Christians, and secular intellectuals like Peterson that selflessness is being
good and sane.
J: “So that’s a problem. I don’t believe that working memory
and executive function are distinguishable from IQ. Our research, we have done
a lot of it, a factor analyzed the battery of of ten dorsolateral prefrontal
tests given to 3,000 people. It’s a very big sample. We haven’t published this
for a variety of reasons. But one factor comes out, you know when Carol’s rule
for IQ was, you take cognitive tests, a bunch of them. You factor analyze them.
You pull out the first factor that’s fluid intelligence.
It's like, well, that’s basically what we found. So, if you
look at the correlation between each of the single tests and the first factor,
it’s only .3 or .4. But that’s also what you find in IQ tests. Each individual
test only correlates with the aggregate at about .3.
But if you aggregate enough of the you get fluid
intelligence, and it’s just as solid as a rock. So emotional intelligence, ha.
Not only does that probably not exist because it is agreeableness. You know you
are told you always need emotional intelligence to thrive in the workplace.
Like, turns out that is exactly backwards.”
My response: I would not quibble with Jordan over whether
emotional intelligence exists are not, but it seems to be that it would be
socially and morally useful to be emotionally intelligent, even if nice guys
finish last in the workplace. If
managers lack emotional intelligence, or are emotionally insensitive, or are
disagreeable, I do not automatically cede to Jordan that less precise, less
technical adjectives alluding to the same adjective or nouns that are part of
the Big Five Personality Model indicates that these older, less rigorous
synonyms should be discarded.
J: “Disagreeable people do better as managers in the
workplace. So, it is if you lack emotional intelligence, you’re more likely to
be an effective manager. So, an emotional intelligence is a great indicator of
a sort of pathology and psychology invented by a journalist.
You know you can’t just have some word invented by a
journalist and then go make a whole,
bloody, you know enterprise out of it. You got to find out if it is really
there, and there’s not a lot of evidence that it is. And what does it mean
anyways? Emotional intelligence? What does that mean? I can infer what you are
feeling.
Well, is that like IQ, like are smart people are better at
that? Or, like, am I mirroring you in some way, or do I care for you? Like
maybe I can figure out exactly what you’re feeling, and I just don’t give a
damn, you know. Is that emotional intelligence. Well, I don’t know. How would
you like to separate that from sympathy or empathy. And what if you are
sympathetic to someone?
Is that emotional intelligence? Like maybe you’re feeling
too sorry for your children, so it is like you are all empathetic, and all
that, but you’re not doing them any good. Sometimes you would be. But sometimes
you should say, you know, quit whining, go the hell outside because that is the
right response sometimes.”
My response: We can feel, experience and act based upon
emotional intelligence or sensitivity to what we feel and what others feel, and
what each person requires in response, and it may be that tough love is the
best response at times.
J: “These things are not straightforward at all. And, of
course emotional intelligence is generally measured with questionnaires. And we
know the rules for questionnaires. What is the rule for questionnaires?
Measuring one or more of the Big Five, either well or badly. Okay, as far as I
can tell that that doesn’t mean personality has a five-dimensional structure.
I’m not making that argument because who the hell knows? I
don’t think it does likely although it’s very hard difficult to say. But what
the Big Five theorists have really demonstrated as far as I am concerned is
that if you factor analyze questionnaires, what you get looks a lot like a
five-factor structure. And you can do that cross-culturally. So, I think we
sort of nailed the question of how our questionnaire is structured.
So, you cannot just invent some new thing and term it
something, and then pretend it is something new without testing it against. And
I would test it against IQ, because that bloody thing. We know for example IQ
eats of most of the variance in disgust sensitivity scales. You would think why
would IQ be related to disgust sensitivity? The smarter you are, the less
sensitive you are to disgust. Now, I don’t know if that’s because maybe your
cortical inhibitor of underlying, like limbic cortical motivational systems are
better. Who the hell knows?
We don’t know why but we know it is a major predictor of
orderliness also predicts. But the thing about IQ is that it predicts things
that you’d never expect. So, you should validate your scale against IQ and
against the Big Five and not some trivial little ten item measure of the Big
Five either. Then, if you use two questions per trait, you’re going to have a
lousy measure of the Big Five.
And if your stupid questionnaire predicts over and above
that, all that means is that you didn’t test it against you know, you didn’t
set it up for a good challenge. You set it up for a weak challenge. There’s a
problem with the measurement of self-esteem and that actually matters because
self-esteem is a psychological concept, not a scientific concept if you like
and you have to get the measurements right. And if you can predict self-esteem
almost perfectly by measuring someone’s extraversion and subtracting from that
their negative emotion or neuroticism. So, it (self-esteem, Ed adds) is
actually just a measurement of a combination of Big Five traits.”
My response: Self-esteem may or may not be a scientific
concept—I do not know what pro-self-esteem psychologists have for evidence to
support that it is a scientific concept—but it is a valuable meta-psychological
concept, a metaphysical and metaethical concept, an overall attitude conveying
one’s orientation to interacting with, experiencing, and flourishing in the
world.
Self-esteem as a meta-psychological concept is one’s global
self-image as a measurement of how one is practicing what one preaches to be
moral and self-realizing to have a tangible basis for feeling at least somewhat
good about oneself.
The Big Five Personality Trait model is a scientific model
subsumed under the meta-psychological concept of self-esteeming, the self-image
of how one orients the self towards the world, while measuring constantly how
one is succeeding or not.
My fear and suspicion is that Jordan is pedaling scientific
research to deny self-esteem and egoist morality to maintain current dominance
by lauding low self-esteem and altruism as morally superior and preferable for
future generations.
J: “And so people are extroverted and feel a lot of positive
emotion and who and don’t feel a lot of negative emotion, so they score high on
scales of self-esteem. Okay, so conceptually it’s a nonstarter because you’re
not going to move people’s levels of neuroticism, let’s say, by trying to get
them to feel good about themselves.”
My response: The superficial therapies of self-esteem
insertion attempts for students failed because you cannot just tell people to
feel good about themselves without reminding them that they are born evil, born
groupist, born without self-esteem, born lazy, born self-destructive, born
nonindividuating and born to be group creatures, selfless, bitter, trapped and
unhappy.
People must be told what their natures are, what they are up
against, that they should esteem themselves initially so they are encouraged
sufficiently to become motivate to believe and practicing self-reform to
increase their veridical self-esteem, that they should they try to improve, to
better themselves and to actualize their talents, should they will to live
better and be the best versions of themselves. They then have a strong moral
claim to feel better about themselves, increasingly as they develop.
I am displeased with Jordan’s identifying being extroverted
with feeling a lot of positive emotion. Nor should introversion be linked to
negative emotion, though the extrovert may be a bit more individualistic and
confident than the introvert.
If the introvert or the extrovert loves herself, and
self-realizes, she will live as an individualist, and then she will love
herself and live her love by growing and working in the world, and self-love is
what makes her enjoy positive emotions and positive thoughts as she esteems
herself.
Be she an introvert or extrovert, if she does not
veridically image herself as she is and how she needs to change and reform,
then neuroticism, negative emotions and mendacious low self-esteem or
self-loathing will be her lot and it will rot her out over time. She will
become a hollow person.
I argue that self-esteem is that meta-psychological
self-measuring and self-assigning of personal worth and it is constituted by
positive emotions and positive thinking. One only esteems oneself if one loves,
worships a good deity, creates, originates conceptually, and might write a
lovely poem. One must also fight evil with resolve and purpose. One will mostly
be a loner and non-groupist, but what socializing and relationships she enjoys
with others likely will be solid, mutual, and lasting.
Low self-esteem belongs to the person of negative emotions
and dark thoughts, where the self-image is poor and bitter. The one of low
self-esteem is one that hates, rallies to the cause of evil, destroys and is
groupist. This sinner and groupist of low self-esteem will be high on
mendaciously imaging herself by low self-esteeming, and she will be low on a
scale of veridically imaging herself by mean of positive, low self-esteeming
because she is unwilling or unable to see herself as she is.
A good person can be an extrovert or introvert, and neurotic
or not, but forthrightly deal with one’s psychological flaws without excuses
made or by avoiding what one is.
A bad person can be an introvert or an extrovert and
neurotic or not, but he inverts and reinforces his natural neuroticism so that
it becomes malevolent and corrupts his entire being, then he is evil, psychotic
and neurotic, but it is mendacious low self-esteem. He is seething with
resentment and a lust to revenge himself upon the world.
My caveat: even the wise and good can fall from grace if
their merited self-esteem becomes a self-image that they conclude is how they
now are all the time, and they are morally superior even perfect, in comparison
to their “lesser” neighbors. These formerly high achievers are now falling from
grace.
Even if or when one enjoys merited high self-esteem, it is
vital ethically and veridically that agent have internalized the law of
moderation, which is a moral law to obey, constantly to restrain and remind
this person not to think too much of himself, or too little of himself, for
these mendacious self-appraisals will lead him to stray and fall from grace.
J: “Okay, now having said that, that doesn’t mean you
shouldn’t encourage people. Right, now there is this psychologist named Jerome
Kagan, who is quite a great psychologist, a developmental psychologist. I think
he is emeritus at Harvard at the moment. He studied temperamentally inhibited
children. So, they’re basically kids who are high in neuroticism, probably low
in extraversion. And he found that if these children, and you can identify them
as early as 6 months, right. It’s very, very inculcated in their temperament.
He found that if you can encourage them in the world, you could shift them into
a more stable personality.
You could shift them into a more stable personality
configuration. And what you basically did when they were manifesting signs of
distress, instead of encouraging them to withdraw and retreat, which is what
they might be attempting to do, you encourage them to go out and explore.
So, for example, if you have a temperamentally inhibited
child, and you go to a playground, and there’s kids out there, like if you have
an extroverted, emotionally stable kid three years old, as you put them on the
ground, their feet are already moving, right. Like a puppy treading water, and
you let them go and they just run to the kids and they’re there and then you
have to drag them away.
But if you have a temperamentally inhibited child, the child
will sort of stand around your legs and sort of peak out. And then what you do
is wait it out, let them watch, encourage them to move a little bit forward and
encourage them to take steps out into the unknown and strange land. And don’t
let them withdraw, like you can do it. They’re slower to warm up. They’ll warm
up, they’ll habituate.”
My response: Jordan--and apparently most psychologists--starts
off with mistaken premises. Then he misreads his scientific evidence to mischaracterize his findings. His mistaken
premises are altruistic morality, group-orientedness, low self-esteem,
selflessness and other-interestedness are noble and preferred while egoist
morality, individual-orientedness, high self-esteem, selfishness or
self-interest, and self-centeredness are evil, and grow into neuroticism,
negative emotions and even psychoses in the proud and vain.
Then psychologists like Jordan make thingns worse, by adding
a second batch of poor premises that grow out of the first set of mistaken presuppositions.
Since they have concluded that selflessness and group-orientedness are noble
and preferred, the extrovert (simply by being biologically born, so genetically
determined as an extrovert) is defined per se as psychologically healthy and
ideal and the carrier of positive emotions: he is sane because he is eagerly
group-oriented and ready to join the group.
The introvert or the unstable, temperamentally inhibited
child is more of a loner, less inclined to join in so he downgraded by
psychologists as more selfish, more self-obsessed, more neurotic,
way-too-self-conscious, and thus is sickened by negative emotion.
I contrast these views, off perhaps a majority of
psychologists with my own take, by defining the child that is a loner more than
a joiner through training (whether or not he naturally is an extrovert or
introvert) as morally superior and higher in veridical self-esteem. The child
that is a joiner more than a loner through pack socialization, be he an
introvert or extrovert, is a sick child, of low veridical self-esteem and of
high self-loathing. His negative emotions and negative thinking will sicken him
and all that he encounters.
J: “And if you continuously expose your inhibited child to
things that make them anxious in measured doses, then you can transform their psycho-physiological
temperament.
Now if you are probably not going to shift them way the hell
out onto the extroverted, emotionally stable end, but you can make a big
difference.
That’s very different about making them feel good about
themselves which is such a—BS. You need to curse. You need to curse when you
discuss that concept, right? It isn’t improved through self-esteem. It isn’t
how you feel about yourself, right. It’s how you act effectively in the world
and how you are trained to do that. Okay.
Now then you were talking about negotiation, and you said,
well you said something like, don’t people feel good about themselves, aren’t
they able to negotiate better? And I know that’s a poor paraphrase. Excuse me.
Negotiation is actually a practical issue to some degree.
Like, the first thing you have to figure out what you want, because you like
you were saying, it’s not merely rational. It’s like, yeah, yeah, that’s for
sure. You have to bargain from a position of authority, let’s say, not power.
Authority is a better word but you don’t have authority unless you know what
you’re talking about. And unless you can bring some, unless you can bring some,
let’s say, force.
That’s not the right word. You can’t negotiate with anyone
unless you’ve set yourself up with alternatives so when you go to your boss and
negotiate for a raise you need to have this sort of CV that enables you to go
find another job and you have to have your CV prepared, and you have to have
looked for another job. And you have to be able to get one, because then you
can go in there and say I’m not as productive as I could be at my current level
of remuneration.
It's not reflective of what I am able to do, and I want
this. And this is what will happen if you give me this. This will be the good
things that will happen, and what do you think of that? The person is going to
know--even by the way that you hold yourself—who you are; by just having the
discussion with you, whether or not you are someone with options, and you can’t
fake that. Well, you can but it’s not helpful. It just doesn’t work very well
for very many iterations. You have to. It’s not rational: you’re preparing
yourself for a battle. That’s what you are doing.
And you can’t be weak when you prepare yourself for battle,
because if the person says no, I’m not giving you a raise, which is exactly
what they should say. Because that is what they are going to do, just like
sprinkle the money around?
You need to be able to say, okay then. There will be
consequences you don’t like. And that’s what it means to say no to someone. No
means if you continue to push this, things will happen that you don’t like.
Know that it will be that I depart and take my talents with me. And if they
don’t care, then you’re in the wrong business or you don’t have any talents to
begin with, right?
So, in order to negotiate properly, and this is more
difficult for people, who are agreeable for example, because they tend to be
conflict averse. You have to put yourself in a position where you can push back
as hard as you’re going to be pushed on. And that means you have to open up
your space of available options because otherwise the person says no, and
that’s it. You’re done. It is as straightforward as that.
Now with regard to the self-esteem part, what to do is
practice on small things because you build skills. Forget about the
self-esteem. (Ed disagrees vehemently.) It isn’t about feeling confident or
feeling confident or any of that.”
My response: It is not all about esteeming oneself and
feeling confident, but it is largely about that. Jordan is wise in warning that
one had better have the talent (developed talents which all have in spades, I
add), the skills, the competence, and options of another job lined up, if one
hurls ultimatums at one’s boss.
J: “So you will notice there are things in your relationship
in particular that aren’t the way you want them to be. And you see how it can
be improved. Negotiate with your partner. Make incremental improvement. Keep
doing that. You will get better and better at it, and then you will be able to
go act and have the hardest negotiation in the world. So, it is a set of skills
with an attitude behind it. It’s easier for some people than others. But
fundamentally it is a set of skills.”
My response: Yes, one can never be too skilled or too
competent, but learning to esteem the self and gain confidence is a skill we
grow through disciplined practice too.
Jordan is a hard-core altruist, a classical Western altruist
that is a modest hybrid, mostly altruist and group-oriented, but allowing a
smidgen of egoism and individualism to be sanctioned too.
I am a moderate with the major emphasis on the egoism and
individualism with my minor ethical outlook placing altruism and group
identifying as minor but still significant ethical emphases.
In all of these video clips on self-esteem, it is clear that
Peterson is an altruist and regards personal pride, pride in one’s intellect,
and esteeming oneself as growing one’s neuroticism, one’s internal evil, one’s
rebellion against God, one’s selfishness and baking into stone one’s festering
resentment against Being itself.
His campaign is to rid Western thought of Objectivist
egoism, and return to Catholic morality from the 1500s. He knows what he is
doing, none better, and he is campaigning hard to arrange a return to medieval
altruism, group-living and nonindividuating as the ideal Christian life to
lead.
We are born wicked, joining, selfless, self-loathing and
with low self-esteem. To have justified pride in ourselves based on successful
effort and achievement is to grow our self-esteem, and this is a conscious,
deliberate, artificial but noble endeavor to undertake. Via self-esteeming and
behaving consistent with such aspiring will lead the masses to customize and
express the deep talented nature as maverized, living angels.
G
In one of his YouTube clips from 2020, as part of the Let’s
Be Successful Series, there is a 4-minute, 11 second clip, which I copy and
comment on. It is entitled: This Is Better than Self-Esteem. Some of this clip
or perhaps all of it is already copied and commented on above, but revisiting
this shorter version so fired me up, that I will recopy it and comment on it.
J: “One of the things psychologists have done for the last
20 years, especially the social psychologists, have pushed this idea of
self-esteem. You should feel good about yourself, and I think why would you
feel good about someone that is 20 it is like you should feel good about who
you are.”
My response: We should speak too, teach, and act towards
even babies a day old so that they learn to esteem themselves (and
correspondingly act ethically to have earned the right to esteem themselves)—and
through self-love, come to love and esteem others, to esteem and love the good
deities, and to love the world itself for its own sake.
J: “No, you shouldn’t feel good about who you are. It’s like
you should feel good about who you could be.”
My response: I agree we initially are a mess and need to
spruce ourselves up. That can be undertaken as we esteem ourselves, while
viewing ourselves as we are, not how we want to see ourselves. We must see
ourselves early on exactly as we are, warts, and all, with a concrete,
sensible, achievable plan of self-improvement underway and lived for a
lifetime.
This plan should be self-realization; I never hear Jordan
mention this as the possibility for or the destiny for all the people,
including those with low intelligence and modest talent, as well as those of
average talent and average intelligence. He thinks the masses are too
dull-witted and without talent, so self-realization is not a possibility for
them, let alone a journey and destiny which they can will to make their
reality. Jordan allows that the masses can self-realize ethically and should,
but that intellectual and artistic self-realizing are what they are incapable
of.
And though Jordan allows the masses can achieve moral
excellence as a form of self-realization, he further curbs the masses by
insisting that they do so under altruist-collectivist moral standard, and not
an egoist-individualist standard. This inferior moral standard which Jordan
seeks to reinforce and reinstate is the traditional Judeo-Christian morality of
the Western world.
Jordan—and perhaps W.Keith Campbell—genuinely believe that
only the few who are geniuses are entitled to or are even able to self-realize
not only ethically, but intellectually and artistically. Jordan is an elitist,
and elitists eventually suggest that the masses need to be managed and curbed
legally by the expert, superior betters running the government and all
institutions, and the masses must settle for being altruistically excellent,
self-sacrificing themselves in service to others, huddled together in groups
and class stratifications, which is all they can create, deserve, or can
manage.
It then will not take too long to return us to 1550 feudal
conditions in Spain where only the priest and lord of the manor in that local
district run things, in a political and class tyranny which any aristocratic
professor or bureaucrat would be delighted of work under, as a member of the
ruling elite.
J: “That is way better because you got 60 years to turn into
who you could be. I’m not saying people shouldn’t have confidence but like
often you take young people, say they’re 16 to 22, and they are not really
feeling that good about who they are, because their life is chaotic and in
disorder, and they don’t know which way is up.”
Joe Rogan objects:
“The cause for it could be bad parenting, bullying. There could be a lot of
abuse going on and I think that’s one of the reasons why that (Why the
self-esteem movement arose—Ed adds.) resonates with people. This idea of being
happy about who you are and feel good about who you are.”
J: “It has to be stated with precision. You should treat
yourself as if you are valuable, especially in potential. But you should
concentrate on who you should become especially if you are young. And so let’s
say you are miserable and nihilistic and chaotic and depressed—all of that now
and you have your reasons you know: terrible parenting, abuse and all of those
things. It’s like well you should feel good about yourself. No, no. It’s not
the right message. It’s more like you should understand how much potential
there is in you to set that straight.”
My response: I do not mind Jordan’s description of the
problem of how messed up young people are, but his solution is very imperfect.
We at best will rear up kids to be morally altruistic/individualistic,
group-oriented nonindividuators like their great-grandparents from the 1930s,
and that does not get it done. We need a generation of individuating
supercitizens with justified self-esteem running America going forward.
Self-esteeming is my
metaethical/metaphysical/meta-psychological technical term for a positive,
upbeat attitude of optimistic self-imaging to carry blemished youths from where
they start to where they can go and need to end up at.
I think my solution for messed up young Americans is more
precise and more useful for helping young people than Jordan’s grim solution
that the young improve themselves while making sure they keep their heads down
and stay humble in service to others, giving pride of place to communal and
personal relationships over self-realizing. He worries needlessly that if they
develop their intellectual abilities and actualize their talents while
esteeming themselves, they will be guilty of Luciferian pride, and will become
entitled, narcissistic, neurotic, actually evil adults spreading malevolence
across the globe, and he could not be more mistaken with this pessimistic and
destructive conclusion.
J: “And then you should do everything you can to manifest
that in the world and it will set it straight and that’s better than
self-esteem. It’s like you are in a crooked, horrible position, okay, fine.
There’s a lot of suffering and pain associated with that. Yeah, you can’t just
feel good because that is not good, but you can do something about it.
You can genuinely do something about it and I think all the
evidence suggests that’s the case.”
Rogan: “Yes.”
My response: Yes, we should communicate the following to a
young person: to see yourself
veridically is to see that you are born depraved and quite flawed, but you must
remain optimistic, esteeming yourself in terms of your innate potential to
improve and get healthy, talented, sane, holy, moral, brilliant and loving as
you activate your potential, so acting to get better, be better, and more
gifted is to increase your self-esteem a lot for your deeds and character now
match your self-image.
J: “So I’m telling all the young people: Look, there’s no
matter how bad your situation is, I’m not going to pretend it’s okay. It’s not
okay, it’s tragic, tainted with malevolence and some people really get hurt by
malevolent people, like terribly hurt. Sometimes they never recover. It’s
really awful. But there’s more to you than you think.”
My response: Yes, we are stronger than we know, if we love
ourselves, have God in our lives and are determined to survive and thrive no
matter what.
J: “And if you stand up and face it with a positive, with a
noble vision, with discipline and intent, you can go farther to overcome it
than you imagined, and that’s the principle upon which you should predicate
your behavior. And one of the things that I really think is nice about being a
clinical psychologist is that this isn’t guesswork.”
My response: Jordan’s evidence is impressive, but he
misinterprets what to conclude about his solid research, because of his
underlying, false premise of antipathy towards self-esteeming and egoist
morality. Do not forget that, before he even commenced studying self-esteem as
a psychologist and social scientist, he was a pure altruist. Remember his early
instincts, this genius joined the socialist party in Alberta when he was 14
years old: is it not possible that he still retains socialist leanings?
J: “Like one of the things we know, two things in clinical
psychology. Truthful conversations redeem people.”
My response: Yes, truthful conversation with others, with
God and with oneself do redeem people.
J: “Because if you come to a clinical psychologist who is
worth his salt, you’d have a truthful conversation. The conversation is: Here
is what’s wrong with my life and here is what caused it. You know maybe it
takes a year to have that conversation. And both participants are doing
everything they can to lay it out properly. Here’s how it might be fixed.
Here’s what a beneficial future looks like and so it is a
completely honest conversation. If it’s working well and all that’s happening in
the conversation is that the two people involved trying to make things better.
That’s the goal. Let’s see of we can have a conversation that will make things
better.”
My response: The therapeutic counseling conversation works
only when the therapist and the patient converse in good faith, and are
truthful, and then the patient sees herself as she is, and is willing to reform
herself along the lines made clear.
If she was an individuator speaking the truth to herself,
and imaging herself realistically but optimistically in the modes of low
self-esteeming and high self-esteeming, both veridically and ruthlessly aimed
at herself, she would ordinarily have this honest conversation with herself,
rendering requiring a therapist to engage in honest conversation about herself
with her, a generally unnecessary interaction to engage in. Still, there are
times when even individuators get stuck, and talking to a therapist might well
be beneficial.
J: “Okay, so we know that works. It does make things better.
Another thing we know is that let’s say there is a bunch of things you are
afraid of that are in your way. So, you have some vision about who you want to
be—maybe you want to be successful in your career, so you have to learn to talk
in front of a group. Well, so you are afraid of that No wonder: you don’t want
to be humiliated.
So, okay, what do we do about that? Well, maybe we first get
you to speak in front of one person and then three people you know for five
minutes and then for ten minutes.”
My response: Jordan’s professional techniques for helping
fearful, anxious patients get better is laudable but they would go much further
were they taught to maverize.
Jordan preaches self-help and then come out against
self-pride, and he inconsistently dismisses self-esteem as a cardinal sin once
a person is guilty of Luciferian pride.
I do appreciate his graduated exposure of the fearful so
they can learn knew, well-adaptive behavior so they can flourish and overcome
hurdles. This growth curve from natural stuckness out into new ways of living
and coping is an unnatural process, not unlike and anticipatory of how
self-esteem is a meta-psychological self-attitude that the agent tries on for
size, and practices until this unnatural or foreign outlook becomes second
nature.
J: “Voluntary, graduated exposure to what you’re afraid of
is curative so tell people that if you confront the world forthrightly, if you
speak the truth and expose yourself courageously to choose things that you are
afraid of, that your life will improve and so will the lives of people around
you.”
My response: As your life improves, your self-esteem will go
up.
H
Finally, from youtube.com, here is a 10-minute, 20 second
clip of Jordan Peterson from 9/12/24, entitled How To Build Self-Esteem. I took
notes on it and will comment below.
J: “If you want to know something about yourself, sit on
your bed one night and say to yourself, you got to mean this, you got to be
desperate. This is no game. This is like my life is not everything I want it to
be and perhaps it is not everything I need it to be. By need, I mean my life is
so unbearable that the suffering attendant on that is making me nihilistic,
bitter, cynical, resentful, homicidal, genocidal, unable to have a good
relationship, prone to publish 36 people for their virtues because of my
jealousy, driving the proclivity to see evil everywhere but in my own heart.”
My response: Jordan ably reveals that humans are naturally a
mess, and they need to get their house in order. It requires veridical low
self-esteem to consciously conclude that one is a hopeless mess, and that one
must reform oneself or die. Then, as one progresses as a maverizer, one’s
veridical self-esteem starts to rise, turn positive and become higher if not
yet merited but provisional (we can always stagnate or go backwards) high
self-esteem.
J: “Like those are problems man, and you ask yourself as you
sit on your bed and you say, alright, man I am ready to learn something like
what is one think I’m doing wrong that I know I’m doing wrong that I could fix
that I would fix.
You meditate on that; you will get an answer and it won’t be
the one you want but it will be the necessary one you need, and it is often
something that will point you toward small things. So, Karl Jung said people in
the modern world don’t see God because they don’t look low enough. So, imagine
you are in your messy bedroom: so, you are sitting on the edge of the bed
trying to have an honest dialogue with yourself. A little voice says it is
pretty disgusting in here, and you think I am way above such trivial niceties
as organizing my room. That is pride, that is arrogance.”
My response: Yes, that is pride, Luciferian pride. That well
exemplifies the spoiled, selfish stubborn of the modern young snowflake, too
good to do humble, menial work. He is a perfect social justice activist in the
making. With his liberal arts degree and his doctrinaire holy faith, cultural
Marxism, he isready to, at the age of 21, to straighten out the world, before
he has straightened out himself. He seeks to join the workforce as a manager, a
member of the self-proclaimed elite, ready to ride herd on the struggling,
downtrodden masses who clean their rooms, and likely would provide the
housekeepers to come in and clean his room.
It is not his fault. He runs in packs and is selfless in his
denial of his individuality; this groupist joiner is arrogant and selfish, but these
traits are typical of the collective selfless, not common among loners,
individualists, self-realizers, business people, blue-collar workers and
farmers, who, unintentionally or self-consciously—at least in free, capitalist
America, live in accordance with an egoist moral code, or some hybrid form of
it.
Jordan identifies the frustrated, unhappy, resentful youth
very well. Jordan wants someone that hates themselves (so paradoxically they
seek pleasure over duty, and usually are lazy and indulge themselves—unless
called to die for their holy cause in the active phase of its attack on
society) to forego seeking self-esteem, and hate themselves even more by being
self-humbling; that will only make likely the pure, concentrated and total the
take-over of their person and soul by evil and self-loathing. Again, Jordan is
brilliant at diagnosing the problem, but his solution will lead to disaster for
each individual, and for poor, suffering humanity.
Jordan has no precise language of self-esteeming: that the
truth-loving, authentic individuator of good faith, will self-identify,
expressing veridical low self-esteem where it is required, revealing to himself
and to the community his flawed traits and sins with veridical self-esteeming,
so he knows what he has to clean up and freely confesses to this.
This same individuator will self-identify with higher or
high self-esteem, what he can be proud of about his achieved level of
self-reform, and this self-esteeming is veridical. Under Mavellonialist
suggestion, in order not to besmirch himself, or offend God, the Good Spirits,
or others, he will remain stoic, calm, modest and polite in thought, word and
deed, for one cannot esteem oneself or continue to esteem oneself, if one does
not take care of the feelings of oneself, of others and the good deities.
It is the groupist, radicalized nonindividuator who is too
proud too and too vulnerable to admit to his sins and flaws, and this leads to
his mendacious self-esteeming, denying where he falls short and wanting. None
is more arrogant than then frustrated, true-believing second-hander that Ayn
Rand warns against.
And where the principle of closure or implication logically
leads us to recognizing where the second-hander’s pattern of self-esteeming is
headed, it becomes obvious that when he is lying to himself about his sins and
errors and lies—practicing and verbalizing a false self-image, or mendacious,
low-self-esteem, his high self-esteem is necessarily mendacious and crap. His
Luficerian pride is raging.
Instead, was he an individuating first-hander, his low
self-esteem about his defects is veridical and realistic, by entailment it
follows that his rising or high self-esteem is veridical, realistic, and
commensurate with his level of success at developing as a living angel. His
love of God and the law of moderation and his acquired sense of gratitude
towards the good deities for what he has learned and become will keep him,
ordinarily from being swelled up by his success and self-accolading.
I was a janitor for 22 years, and have been a maintenance
engineer for 25 years, so I have done a lot of humble work and nasty jobs.
Before that I hauled manure on the farm for my dad to clean out his feed lots.
I believe my self-esteeming, both high and low self-esteem, is realistic
overall.
J: “If you are above organizing what is actually yours, how
are you ever going to organize anything else of yours. Get on your knees and
think it is time to take a brush to the toilet and maybe that is where you
start. That works. That works.”
My response: Yes, it might be that a good or even great
deity in heaven takes out the garbage Deself rather than delegate it to be done
effortlessly by telepathically driven magic, or by having servant fairies do
the work as seen in a Disney animation movie. The deity would personally take
the garbage out of De’s house, rather than rely on a servant to do it. Jordan’s
advice here can lead to moral excellence, but we also need this pattern of
self-reforming to lead to intellectual and artistic excellence for each of the
masses, willing to participate in the individuation process.
J: “You start making those micro-improvements, real
micro-improvements. Real micro-improvements, real on the ground, actual
micro-improvements to the things you know are wrong, you will improve,
unbelievably rapidly.”
Interviewer of Peterson: “What you are talking about there
sounds like an overdose of arrogance and the need for humility. Do you think
the Western world suffers from arrogance because of our relative privilege are
. . .?”
My response: No, I would argue that whatever privilege and
luxury the West enjoys is what they earned and worked for; there is an overdose
of arrogance and a need for humility loose in the West, but it is the
altruistic, affluent, true-believing, cultural Marxists that are arrogant.
If a Westerner was an actual individualist, and perhaps an individuator,
he would be similar to most successful individuators, pursuing their own best
interests: individuators generally are rather modest, humble people, because
they know anyone, of any race, of any orientation, can do as well or better as any
Westerners can do, if they adopt Western values, and work hard.
An individualist that is arrogant and swelled up is not an
egoist: he is a joiner, a wannabe member of the elite who can strut that he is
superior to his subjugated audience. The braggart brags to cover his deep
insecurity and self-loathing.
No individualist worth his salt ever need to be vain and
haughty to anyone. It is uncalled for and forbidden.
J: “That is the temptation. Right, I mean when the Left, the
radical Left types, go after people for their unearned privilege, they have a
point. Now, the point is the existentialists call it thrownness. That’s a
Heideggerian term. Thrownness is the fact that we kind of experience life as if
we were thrown or tossed in it. You’re male and not female; you are Christian
and not Hindu. You are tall and not short. You have an arbitrary range of
talents, an arbitrary range of limitations, none of which in some sense you
choose.
It is the cards you are dealt. Now some of these are cards
of privilege. Maybe you were born intelligent. Maybe you are born symmetrical.
Maybe you are born healthy. Maybe you are born into a culture where it is much
easier not be absolutely deprived. Your parents are born rich. All of that is
some sense is unearned. Now along with that comes a good dose of existential
guilt.”
My response: “No, that is elitists crap that one should feel
existentialist guilt, that is elitist crap so elites can continue to rule the
masses. No one who is born fortunate (unearned privilege, a word I detest) is
not born unfortunate in some other way. No one who is born unfortunate
(unearned deprivation, a phrase I coin, but despise) is also born fortunate in
other ways.
How you started out is your gift from God, and what you do
with it is an expression of the privilege of being born, to self-realize your
talents, using what God gave you to work with. This is egoist morality at its
finest.
No more talk of existential guilt about being born with
unearned privilege, connections, and luxuries. That is elitist crap, that those
privileged in the West should feel guilty, and then give it all away to others
“less fortunate.”
We need the rich and privileged to not feel guilty and thus
obliged to help/interfere in the lives of the masses as compensation. The
masses need to be left alone, neither pitied nor oppressed. They need
encouragement, liberty, capitalist opportunity, and egoist morality to inspire
them to work hard and bootstrap their way to wealth, security, full bellies and
a maverized lifestyle.
The rich and the powerful need to leave them alone. The only
cultural gift which the rich and powerful should provide the masses is training
in Mavellonialist values so they no longer need elites in any way, and this
would allow for elites to put themselves out of business, and that is real
altruist compassion towards the masses.
We all feel guilt subconsciously, and it is existential
guilt, but it is not for feeling guilty over one’s natural blessings of
unearned privilege. The feeling of guilt stems from that fact that all of us
are born sinful and self-hating, which distances us from the individuated and
individualistic good deities.
We must admit we are filled sin from birth, in a mode of
veridical low self-esteeming, and then accept that we are also inherently good
enough, worthy enough, to become artistically, intellectually, morally and
spiritually perfected enough to be classified by the Good Spirits as living
angels, and then we can esteem ourselves highly because these Good Spirits
esteem us highly—all of time fully, consciously realizing and accepting, that
we still not perfect and never will be, but we ever keep striving upward and
outward, becoming more perfected.
This realization that we are always still somewhat
imperfect—though less so over time if we are self-realizing—is how our
veridical self-esteeming keeps us properly humble, so we—if we now have arrived
at the status of being a living angel--can be reasonably proud of ourselves,
esteem ourselves, and love ourselves, without doing so disproportionately,
which would sicken us, fill us with hubris, and make us hate ourselves, and we
would turn evil.
We must always, repeatedly self-check, and ask God, others,
and our guardian angels to warn us (then we should heed and act upon their
constructive criticism, so we can return to and stay on the road to heaven),
that we actually still are good and serve good.
We always run the risk as humans of falling away from
godliness, deceiving ourselves that we still are esteeming ourselves highly
when we have failed to earn self-regard, and fake-esteeming ourselves lowly
when we have come up short in some insincere, virtue-signaling way to inform
the audience that we are nobly humble, when in fact we are in a state of lapse
and sin, and we still need to feel good about ourselves, so we lie: abusing
ourselves and others, betraying the good deities, as we mendaciously esteem
ourselves lowly, and also mendaciously esteem ourselves highly.
J: “Because some of the time this is true for anyone,
regardless of their cultural background. The ground we walk on is soaked in the
blood of historical atrocity. So that is on you.”
My response: Why is that on you? We are not responsible for
the historic viciousness of our ancestors (We are responsible for the evil we
do in this generation, by not fighting dark forces, by teaching our children to
be selfless, who, being the born little self-haters that they are, they will be
as eager as their equally foolish ancestors to perpetuate the pattern of lousy
values which cause sin and malevolence in the world.), especially as humans
forever have been trained to sin by their traditional cultures, as selfless,
joining groupists, poisoned by altruist-collectivist ethics. It is no wonder
that the world is a cruel, painful mess.
What is on each individual is to straighten herself up, be
good and individuating, to serve the good deities by loving and creating, which
is good for her personally, and indirectly improves the lives of all, as one
less person is causing trouble in the world, and that small victory is
significant, and God notes it and smiles.
J: “People think: who is the Nazi? That is the fascist. Or
who is the radical Communist, the radical left-wing ideologue. The fundamental
truth is that it is best dealt with as a spiritual matter. The adversary is
within most profoundly.”
My response: Here I agree with Jordan. The adversary to
human success, to a person living a moral, happy, free, and fulfilling life is
personal failure. All or most human problems cannot be effectively addressed at
the collective, communal level, or worse, and more doomed to defeat, at the
collective, global level.
The individual failure to take up her cross and maverize is
the source of human problems. To mavewrize and serve the Good Spirits is the
only answer for growing good and reducing evil in the world, and this is a
personal spiritual commitment to journey towards building heaven on earth
through self-improvement, and there are no substitutes, no workable
alternatives.
J: “You have to take responsibility for that historical
atrocity (NO, ED ADDS.) onto yourself. I was talking to Guy Ritchie this week
about his movie, King Arthur, which is quite an interesting movie in many ways.
And Arthur who could be the hero who takes the sword. He is so overcome by
visions of his murderous uncle that he can’t pick up the weapon. Well, think
about that. Now you have weapons at your disposal. But they have been used by
your murderous uncle.”
My response: The young do not need to take responsibility
for the evil done by their ancestors, but, being born depraved, and delighting
in being cruel, if not checked by personal moral self-restraint, the likelihood
is that they will enjoy repeating and extending their ancestors’s evil ways which
they inherited. In one sense, Jordan is correct: the evil of our ancestors does
taint us, though we did not choose or do their evil, but we, biologically
inclined to repeat traditional mores, will repeat and even make worse their
sinning, most likely in our own day, and enjoy doing so and even justifying it.
What we should feel existential guilt over is if we give our
future generations, born just as evil and nasty as we are, a bad set of
altruist values, to they willingly will perpetuate and prolong our evil ways.
There is hope, though it is not an easy hope. Evil is, and
always will be, and I do not think it will ever be fully, or finally vanquished
in the universe, or the free will to choose will be deprived from future
generations.
We can esteem ourselves veridcally; this capacity is
sanctioned by God, and veridical self-esteem can be implemented and practiced
by us in our daily lives as maverizing egoists, and, such a personal
ontological commitment, will allow goodness and love to wax and increase here
on earth and in the cosmos. Veridical self-esteem must exist as you and as an
integral, permeating aspect of your consciousness if you are to serve God, be
well, live well; veridical self-esteeming must become your existential and ethical
reality.
J: “Dare you wield them? The answer is maybe it is just as
easy to leave the sword on the ground because do you want to be responsible for
atrocities going forward? And don’t think you couldn’t do that and don’t think
you wouldn’t enjoy it, and so the way you pay for your privilege is with your
virtue.”
My response: Again, there is no personal existential guilt
to be felt for the sins of one’s ancestors, but one must live ethically to not
prolong and extend evil, and to minimize the harm one personally commits while
alive. That is what we should feel guilty about if we fail to do our duty as
divine children of the Light Couple, but that is where our guilt ends—no
collective guilt, no existential guilt for the past sins of our ancestors.
J: “I mean that most particularly. You have these
opportunities and this existential guilt and the way you expiate that and atone
is to live your best possible life that you can manage: to speak the truth, to
treat people with respect, to abide by the dignity of the individual and put
your house in order.
And that is how you pay for your unearned privilege. All of
us: we all have our privileges and our curses. All of us. That is why it is not
useful to be envious of people.”
My response: The altruist ethics which Jordan espouses
drives him to warn us not to be envious of others, and of course we should envy
no one, but nor should we look down on those less fortunate, by pitying them,
which easily transmutes into hatred of them, demonstrated as a power-grabbing
as elite do-gooders mess in their personal lives to set them straight—thereby
making things even worse.
We want to move away from group-morality, which is what
altruism is, which is the professed duty and right to interfere in the lives of
others, by envying those with more than us, and by pitying or looking down upon
those with less than us.
We need instead to support a communal and countrywide
culture of each person, privileged or not, solving her own problems with her
own resources or imaginative efforts and application, so she can work, make
money, self-realize, and build a free, prosperous, brilliant life for herself,
while inviting her neighbors to self-realize in their own way.
J: “So you see a young man: you see him drive by in a Ferrari
with a blond. And you think, my God, he’s got everything. You know the woman in
the car is a prostitute who has a cocaine addiction and her life is just one
catastrophe after another. And he has to lie and cheat his way into this
position. He’s afraid everything is going to come crashing down on him. This is
what you are jealous of. And it is just not that profound.
You don’t want someone else’s fate. Man, your fate is
enough. And your adventure is enough. It is plenty. More than you can ever
fully realize.
And that is also part of the reason that we all believe the
individual has intrinsic dignity. Don’t be so sure that your position is so
damn privileged. It might be that your attitude toward it is trivial. And if
you are in dire circumstances and dire straits just look at how much
opportunity you have to make things better. So not that it is easy. You don’t
even want it to be easy.”
My response: Jordan is wise here: self-improvement,
especially at the focused level of maverizing, is not easy and we do not want
it to be easy.
Interviewer: “On that point that you don’t want it to be
easy, I have really contended with this point that struggle and chaos in my
life and the role it played and at one time I thought I was trying to rid my
life of chaos and struggle. And once I understand, I thought that was why I was
trying to get rich and get the Ferrari and the blond. I thought that would
create a life free of struggle. But then I looked at some studies and I read
about this thing called Gold Medal depression when Olympics came back from the
Olympics and have lost their orientation. And the day when someone offered to
buy my company for 8, 9 figures, and it filled me with emptiness, dread and I
tried to understand the role that struggle would have to play for me to be a
fulfilled human being for the rest of my life.”
J: “Well, the observation with regard to your company, that
is a great observation. We are built to walk uphill. When you reach the
pinnacle of the hill, you want to stop and appreciate the vision but the next
thing is you want a higher hill and the distance. It’s the uphill climb, it is
from the uphill climb we derive our value, and I mean this technically: most of
the positive emotion we feel . . .”
My response: Positive emotion seems to be Jordan’s technical
term similar or very similar to my concept of veridical, merited high
self-esteem.
J: “ . . . especially the emotion that fills us with
enthusiasm, and that means to be filled with the spirit of God, and that is
what enthusiasm means. That is experienced in relationship to a goal. So in
some sense and this is part of the religious enterprise. You want a goal you
can never attain, right, so you can always move closer to the goal that recedes
as you move towards it.
That is frustrating like the Sisyphus pushing the rock up
the hill, but it is not because as you pursue that goal you put yourself
together and your life gets better and richer and more abundant.”
My response: Yes, as anyone of the people maverize, seeking
personal excellence spiritually, ethically, intellectually, and artistically,
the very effort helps her pull herself together, and her life gets better,
richer, and more abundant. Her high self-esteem will increase proportionately
to her degree of self-improvement.
J: “And that is why the highest level of virtue and goal are
transcendent. You want them to be above everything you are doing so you can
continually move towards something that is more sublime and better. That is
what you are. You are here not to live not to sleep and the problem with the
vision of Mai Tais on the beach—well, first that is a vision of drug-induced
unconsciousness—second, it is only going to work for about a week. Third, you
are going to be a laughingstock in a month, and depressed, aimless, and
goalless.”
My response: Jordan is spot on that we do not want to exist
is total ease, goalless, let alone in a state of drug-induced unconsciousness.
There are mystical, irrational, unconscious ways of self-realizing and reaching
God, but, ordinarily the mental state most conducive to self-realizing is conducted
by the self in regular everyday reality here on earth: one think, feels and
experiences in a conscious mode of rational, common-sensical, intellectually
conceptualizing and yet intuitive interacting with reality inside and outside
of us.
Jordan might regard the masses as capable only of ethical
excellence and brilliance, but I also include intellectual, spiritual, and
creative output to be included in the maverized self-expressing of her
personhood, by the average person.
J: “That is not what you want—you want a horizon of ever-expanding
possibilities, and it does happen to people. They have staked their soul on the
attainment of an instrumental goal. It can be a pretty high order goal. It was
in your case.
Then you think, now I am there, now what? The answer cannot
be I am going to live in the lap of luxury and never have to leave the _____;
what do you want to be? A giant infant with a gold bottle? You never have to do
anything but lay on your back and suck.
Well, you see the problem with that as a conceptualization.
It’s no, like you want to be like an active warrior moving up hill with a sword
in hand. That is dynamic. That is exciting. That is why so many young men
disappear into video games. That is all acted out in the video game. So, you
have to act that out in your own life. Not that I despise video games because I
don’t. They are not a substitute for life. They may be good training under some
conditions for life.”