That Loneliness

 

Yesterday 91/16/24), Dennis Prager was shown on a short clip on Facebook, probably a quote from one of his Fireside Chats. I took notes on the short clip and would like to comment on it below.

 

Here is Prager (P after this): “Loneliness is a curse.”

 

My response: This short video on loneliness from Prager is wise and compassionate, but I see the need to put my own spin on it. I am not sure that we even know what loneliness is. That loneliness, the common version of it, certainly is what Prager is identifying it as—that common feeling of horror, dejection and depression, the intellectual and metaphysical awareness of loneness, separated from other people, feeling alone in the universe, without comfort, warmth, belonging. Life does not seem worth living alone, and one feels there is no love, no supreme being to comfort one, that there is not meaning to be construed, or at least one that rewards one enough to even seek to craft and shape a structure of meaning.

 

 This is the standard feeling of loneliness. It is a curse if one is not strong enough, wise enough, knowing enough, or esteeming the self enough to do something—something constructive about it. When one is alone, really alone, one encounters Being itself, encounter God and encounters oneself, and that is the most frightening, to-be-avoided state of existence that anyone can face and be braced by, if they lack the courage, the optimism, the imagination and self of self to make something positive and meaningful out of it.

 

Because humans are born depraved, and evil is selflessness, low self-esteem or self-hatred, and altruism-collectivism is the popular, common moral code (it is an immoral code more than not, training people up to worship and obey the Evil Spirits) of the majority of humans commonly, daily feeling lonely, especially when alone, but also in the crowed living their lives of quiet despair (until their frustration prompts million of them to join an active mass movement). For the selfless nonindivduators, devil-worshipers and group-livers, especially is loneliness a curse.

 

If one worships a good deity, loves the self and takes up one’s responsibility and moral duty to spend one’s like actualizing one’s potential as a thinker, doer, businessperson, artist and parent, then loneliness, always a human problem, more and more becomes a jumping off point for what Jordan Peterson refers to as the greatest adventure of one’s life.

 

Loneliness is a serious problem, not to be lightly dismissed—as a radical loner, I have suffered from loneliness more than most, to a greater extent than most, almost utterly without a group buffer to shield me emotionally and psychologically from the sheer existential horror that loneness coveys to one’s conscious mind, when one is out there alone, absolutely alone.). So loneliness is a serious problem, and it can be a curse. It is also a gift from heaven. If one is willing to work to grow into great souledness as a living angel and individuating supercitizen employed directly by the Good Spirits, then loneness and loneliness are a blessing and a promise. Once all the noise, all the lies, all the fantasies, social games, justifications, social and self-delusions are stripped away like morning fog, one is able to encounter Being, talk to the Good Spirits as they are, and encounter the self, and of course, this process is gradual and should be as one slowly come awake.

 

For the living angel, loneness and loneliness are the primary modes of existence, and belonging, group-living and being joined with others in the herd is a secondary, less moral and inferior mode of existence that can still be loving and moral (and conquer and cure largely the negative effects of feeling lonely), if it is not done too much by each ethical agent, with the majority of her time spent by herself, doing her own thing.

 

P: “You know the first thing God said about humanity, the very first thing? God says it is not good for man to be alone.”

 

My response: I respond that it is good for man to be alone more than not to be alone (If she knows how to make the best of it.), but both modes of existence are necessary to enjoy if a person is to lead a balanced, happy, emotionally satisfying life.

 

P: “A Christian pastor made a brilliant point. I do not how his name. I only know it is brilliant: theoretically, Adam was not alone. He had God. This pastor made the brilliant point that while God is necessary, even God is not sufficient.  God made us to need people. We don’t only need God.”

 

My response: Adam and no human has ever been alone, or at least alone or lonely all the time. God and the angels have always been at the agents, elbow, waiting to be invited to enter his life, to comfort, counsel, encourage and just be there all the time, and the Good Spirits are there all the time. If a great soul is deeply, sincerely religious, and has a deep, loving relationship with the Good Sprits, he has more spiritual friends than human friends, who are few or none in number.

 

It is a brilliant point that God is necessary for humans but is not sufficient. God made us to need people; we don’t only need God.

 

The natural human repugnance at being alone and lonely is in part a fear to face truth and knowledge about what one is, how the world works, and then to discover what one should and must do about what one has discovered.

 

The Dark Couple, Satan and Lera, and their underlings, the Evil Spirits, are selfless, filled with pure hatred, rage, bitterness, ingratitude and the lust for destruction and revenge upon Being for having been brought into existence. They are wholly group-oriented but surface loneliness is not for them to experience because it is hidden under 623 layer of denial, excuses, plots, diversions, lie an justification.

 

Their hellish mass movement is the kingdom of these popular joiners, and their bottomless core  of self-loathing is pure rage, and that is how their express that painful rage, and that is the wellspring of their acting out their feelings of self-disgust. This is the social phenomenon that is loneliness in the crowd being challenged into the communities by malevolent beings and persons that never dealt initially loneliness in a calm, mature, courageous, matter-of-fact demeanor.

 

P: “It’s not heretical. It is beautiful. You should get married. You should have a family. You should make friends and see them regularly. It is not good to be alone.”

 

My response: Both Prager and that unknown Christian pastor were correct. All these familial, social and communal modes of joining and enjoying others is good for both.

 

Still, each person should individual-live and individuate, more than she group-lives and nonindividuates.