Naricissim

"Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which people have an excessive sense of self-importance, an extreme preoccupation with themselves, and lack of empathy for others." This is a definition of narcissism and is from Google word definitions.

I wrote a letter to the editor and a Lib accused me of being filled with narcissism.

Of course I deny this, but believe some definitions are in order.  First, there are narcissistic people out there that practice excessive self-concern. But most individuators are not like self-haters that are to individualistic or too groupist. Those are the narcissistic ones, too preoccupied with the affairs and doings of others, so that excessive other-involvement renders the intruder and bossed victim as narcissistic or self-hating. Excessive self-love,  excessive individualism and excessive lonerism are narcissism or self-hating. Joiners have little empathy with others or themselves.

It is the individuators that are self-loving and self-involved. They do not act hateful towards others or themselves. Their self-absorption would be primary but not extreme. They would be self-important but ascribe that quality to all people, especially the maveriers. He who loves the self and cares for the self, is empathetic towards others.