When To Conform

Adults and peers should encourage the young to conform to moral rules and reasonable standards of behavior and be socially well-mannered.

Beyond these obvious, sensible measures, as children begin to assert their personhood, individuate and live-apart, conformity should be largely deemphasized--as long as the basic  decencies of behavior aforementioned are not abandoned in the meantime.

We want our young to be enthusiastic, resolved and brave as they face the future alone, growing and living apart. No time b be forlorn and hesitant, their adventure is launched and they and the world will never regret it.