Friendship Working

 

I have enjoyed friends and had several deep, lasting friendships in my life, but not many. And then I lost most of those friendships, and they have not much been replaced, and as I go deeper into Mavellonialism and self-realization, no new friendships occur. It is as if I have outgrown most regular people around me, and mutual understanding, enjoyment and friendship are not possible—only bickering, competing and hostility can come of it all. I now, unwillingly, live in deep reclusiveness, not because I want to, but because the worldly groupist hunt me incessantly when they know I exist and encounter me. They will not live me alone, for groupist will not abide professed, known great souls in their midst. If I fire them up sufficiently, they would like me dead—it is not dissimilar to the way radical Islamists and other Jew-haters seek to murder and take off the face of any Jew; such is the link between anti-Semitism and anti-Mvellonialism that I am experiencing. I am a loner, but a good loner and a great soul, and am animated by living my egoist-individualist/altruist-collectivist moral code, and that is revolutionary and will startle the hell out of the sleepy altruists and groupist, as Mavellonialism emerges into general consciousness.

 

We are all born depraved, and we routinely do not self-realize, we are addicted to pack-living, and—though it does not work and causes endless suffering—groupists spend a lifetime hiding in the pack, seeking to avoid themselves and the Good Spirits. This life of evil, self-deceit and avoidance of their maverizing telos is where they reside and the people that lie to each other within this echo chamber of mediocrity and socially structured states of mass dupedness, refer to their interrelationships as friendships but most such relationships are damaging lies, like nearly everything else in their lives.

 

I am not against friendship or wholesome group connections, but much of what is passed off as positive and friendship is no such thing.

 

It could be too that friendship is more possible, more lasting, and more the real McCoy among the children of light than among the children of darkness, though both make claims of having friends, and calling themselves moral, and faithful to their friends, when that is not the reality. The children of light are moral and faithful to their friends, so their complimentary self-reference is true, and the children of darkness are immoral and not loyal to God, themselves, or their friends, but they still insist that they are moral and enjoy strong, loyal friendships, when it is all a sham and a lie. The vicious wrap themselves in the mantle of virtue so they can live with themselves, and to conduct their wicked affairs without aroused opposition from the alerted children of light.

 

There is no doubt about the existential fact the conflict between loners and joiners is mostly the fault of the majority, the joiners, that hate and hunt loners, always in need of scapegoats and whipping boys at the bottom of the social pecking order.

 

Still, the sage Dennis Prager, more popular, more optimistic about socializing, and enjoying more pleasant group-connections than I do, is more positive about friendship, that is occurs, is desirable, welcome, positive, and achievable, and he likely is correct as usual.

 

He does recommend marrying someone that has the same values with one, and our rabbi is correct again. I think this insight also applies to friendship, that people that share the same values, roughly similar socioeconomic status, that are about the same in degree of lived lonerism (or not) and self-realization (or not), they  do develop strong, rather positive actual, mutual beneficial relationships that are genuine, especially if they are moral people, in contrast to joiners that are indecent but call their relating to others, strong friendships.

 

To repeat, friendship can be real, loving, based on cooperation, enjoyment of each other, treating each other with respect and dignity, not seeking to hurt or profit off of each other, not setting up sadomasochistic competition games, not seeking to gain rank at the other’s expense, willing to share in the other’s experience whether they are successful or failing, accepting them as they are while being truthful but constructive in telling them their flaws and strengths to their face, just enjoying being with them.

 

Friends likely share common values, common cultural roots, and language usage. They might share the same professional or hobby interests, or do the same kind of work.

 

They likely are about good or evil, or joiner or loner in about the same mixture as the friends they hang with.

 

It is not easy to define what friendship is, and when it is real or fake, but Prager likely could guide us here.

 

One of the reasons egoism is connected with evil traditionally, and altruism, unselfishness and a life of service to others  is considered noble and laudable, is because people are naturally altruistic (what I have labeled psychological altruism): and they are born subjective more than objective-minded, so what they are is good, natural and universally shared and is universally good and right, and that is how people do or should live everywhere. Because they group-live and do not individuate normally, then their altruistic orientation, away from themselves towards the family, clique, community, and cause that they worship, is what they refer to as virtuous, and the failure to be other-oriented is considered to be shallow, ruthless, selfish and vicious.

 

Friendship as enjoyed among great souls (who traditionally might go a lifetime and not meet another great soul) and defined by them is quite a different creature than is friendship defined and enjoyed among joiners and non-indiviudators, and the truth is not easy to unpack.