Loneliness

 

I heard a quote on Facebook this morning from Dennis Prager, and it is short, quite charming, wise, and reassuring and in need of some qualifying. Here are my notes on the quote that I will then comment on.

 

Prager: “Loneliness is a curse. The first thing God said in the Bible is concerning loneliness: ‘It is not good for man to be alone. A Christian pastor made a brilliant point. I don’t know his name but the point is brilliant.

 

Theoretically, Adam was not alone; he had God. This pastor makes this brilliant point: while God is necessary, God is not sufficient. God made us to need people; we don’t only need God. It sounds heretical but it is beautiful. It is not heretical. Get married. Have a family. You should have friends, see them regularly. It is not good for us to be alone.”

 

My response: I personally am not the loneliest, most friendless person alive, but I likely am in the top 1% of pure loners—extremely lonely, extremely friendless, a total, social loser without any social rank or popularity at all, and am someone that people shed like a leper because I will cost them social rank, and that is what they live for, increasing their popularity and rank in whatever clique they naturally matriculate from, or are seeking to be admitted to or promoted in.

 

 Is my aloneness, my deep, deep suffering from loneliness, that would break a less willful, moral man (No matter how we suffer, as children of light, from the malicious children of darkness, we must do our best to hurt no one, to hurt not ourselves, or allow ourselves to go mad; our job is to serve God as best we can, while suffering for De’s sake.), driving him to commit mass murder, to suicide or going absolutely, irretrievably, permanently insane, my fault, because I am a sadistic bully and disagreeable ENTJ? I think that is what I am accused of by various groups that have run me out, rejected me, or demoted me to the bottom of their social hierarchy. I am smeared as mean, crazy, unpleasant, of being to blame for all the tussles that I have engaged in, or been a victim of.

 

I do not think my severe unpopularity is my fault, though some of it is The fault lies mostly with the groups that I have fought with.

 

If I am correct, and I think I am, the good deities and the Good Spirits are individualists, individuators and brilliant creators that operate primarily on egoist-individualist ethics.

 

The bad deities and the Evil Spirits are joiners, nonindividuators, and brilliant destroyers of all that is order, cosmos, love, beauty, freedom, and goodness. They favor altruist-collectivist ethics, the ethics of immorality and amorality.

 

People, born wicked, born lacking in self-esteem, born in, and living in packs, live in the Dark Couple’s world. Where altruism is the most cruel is how the vast majority of people, the joiners and group-members, discriminate, torture, abuse, attack and persecute innocent individualists and individuators in their midst.

 

The effective aim is to keep insiders, uniformists, conformists down and out, not self-realizing, not individual-living not becoming a living angel of love, expanding Cosmos as expected and anticipated by the individuated, individuating good deities.

 

I am a good man but not a perfect man. I am wise, but not all-knowing. In a good world, I would have high status in society, even being popular. But, in this world of ignorance, foolish ways, evil and near universal bondage and lying to selves by everyone against themselves, I, a great soul and man of God, am defamed and slandered as a monster or lunatic or crank. I have been isolated, attacked, unfairly maligned, discredited, de-platformed, and marginalized.

 

Let us reexamine Prager’s wise remarks about loneliness in light of my qualification. Loneliness is a curse. It requires that we have deep connections to other people to a spouse, to one’s children. If these relationships are solid, based on love, equality and not competitive game-playing, these relationships comfort and satisfy and make all that enjoy them, and this enjoyment, often health, genuine and normal, and enjoyed by millions of groupists and nonindividuators, is the product of their shared values and roughly similar ranks socially, and their roughly shared level of equality in terms of their rank on a scale from 0 (pure nonindividuating) to 10 (The fully developed, great soul).

 

Loneliness is also a blessing. Loneliness is that place of existential encounter, where the Good Sprits reveal themselves to us. Loneliness is the shock and horror that the individual experiences and feels when he becomes awake and is geographically, internally or externally positioned, separate from his original groups, having emerged as an individual, individual-living.

 

Most people fold like a cheap suit, and run back into the pack and will do anything, say anything, agree to anything—no matter how the misbehavior demanded by the pack against others as the price or re-admission offends his conscience--in exchange for pack acceptance of this lost sheep that has returned to the flock where sin, lies, ignorance, needless suffering and low self-esteem are the norms.

 

When we leave the group, and encounter Being, Non-Being, God, the Dark Couple, the Good Spirits, the Evil Spirits, we are at the existential crossroad, if we dare to self-realize and work at living and feeling and doing as a living angel, then loneliness is the condition of living under which one is able to be largely alone, without crumbling, selling out, and then fleeing back into the altruist hell, the group where we sin, suffer needlessly and hurt each other, and sin against the good deities.

 

As Yahweh pointed out in the Bible, it is not good for man to be alone. What this means is that it is not too good for man to be alone too much, all the time, or without self-living and maverizing so that he can stand the weight of being alone. As a maverizer, he has earned to right to spend some social time with others, and he needs that and they need him to seek to be with them.

 

He should individuate, individual-live and be by himself more than not, but he also needs a spouse, children, and friends to enjoy, and he should strive mightily to comfort them. If they are also mostly maverizers, then his time with them as his equals in level of development, in level of self-awareness and in acceptance and affect for great loners that go into their groups and relationships and out of them to be by themselves, this time spent with others socially and familially will be among equals, a source of comfort, cheer, healthy enjoyment and a bulwark against loneliness.

 

Loneliness is what we feel when we are alone, individual, and deciding how to love and get along with God and the Good Spirits, how to handle loneliness. This is altruism and sociability that is needed and desirable.

 

We need God, we need to be by ourselves to self-realize and we need other humans. It is not good to be alone too much or all the time, but it better to be alone more than we are not, but we should comfort each other too.

 

It is also not good to be without loneliness ever with others, without apartness and loneliness at all. The selfless group-liver that does not maverize, suffers from self-hatred, and those that hate the self, tear up themselves and others, hurting and destroying. That is what the Evil Spirits love, for the group, the social arena, is where they rule supreme.

 

Still, Prager is right: it is not good to be alone, or alone too much, or in the wrong way. It is equally important not be joined with others all the time, in the wrong way or too much.

 

Once the children of light, if they ever do, take over the earth as self-realized, self-loving anarchist supercitizens, they will set up social arrangements and group activities that regard individualism and egoist-individual ethics and individual living as normal, acceptable, even admirable, while downplaying—not eradicating—altruist-collectivist ethics so a society of maverizers can have their group time without that group time sickening people or thwarting their divine spark instantiated personally as being a developed, living great soul. In these ways, loneliness can be alleviated but not eliminated, so we have the right balance of being alone and living alone, while being social and group-living.