Psychological Egoism

Psychological egoism is the doctrine that we are motivated by self-interest. I disagree that we are motivated by self-interest. Mostly, we hate ourselves and hurt others and ourselves because our motive is psychological altruism.

Maturing and individuating is learning to be motivated by enlightened self-interest and that is not easy to assume as a learned motive, but it can be done, and is well worth the effort.